Table for Two … in the Operating Room

We all know that once you get married, there’s an unspoken agreement to mutually deteriorate at about the same pace.

As much as we want to believe in for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, the truth is, if one person starts looking much fatter or much older than the other, it can be, well, uncomfortable.  No husband wants to take his wife to dinner only to be asked by the waiter, “And what can I bring for your lovely daughter?”  Awwwwkwaaaaard.

So what is a couple to do who is still in love, who still cares about their mutual attraction, and who wants to look as young as they feel?  Much like a couples massage (except more expensive, longer-lasting, and more rewarding), married folks are increasingly turning to couples plastic surgery.

  • Women Usually Lead the Way
  • Strength in Numbers
  • Make Sure You Get What You Want, and NOT What Your Partner Wants
  • Support Each Other

Women Usually Lead the Way

No, I don’t think that all husbands are hen-pecked.  However, it seems that someone in the partnership, and it’s usually the woman, takes the lead in pursuing plastic surgery.  I find that women are more open about cosmetic procedures or may have undergone treatments before.  And due to the increasingly fading stigma surrounding men and plastic surgery, many men are joining their wives during their consultations and discovering that they have an interest in a little improvement or two, as well.

In today’s more open society, it’s great that couples can share all aspects of their lives.  When a women comes in for a tummy tuck or facelift or breast augmentation, her husband may end up undergoing a neck lift or liposuction or chin augmentation or whatever.  The point is, most couples taking the mutual surgical plunge have a close relationship and see plastic surgery as just one more life adventure to share.

Strength in Numbers

Another advantage that couples gain during shared surgery is making sure that they’ve asked every question and covered everything there is to know about their procedures and recovery periods.  Having more than one person at the consultation ensures a better chance that all of the information presented by the plastic surgeon has been absorbed by one person or the other.  While women usually take the lead in asking the questions, men seem to be more in the listening mode during a consultation.

Undergoing plastic surgery together does not necessarily mean surgery on the same day or same week.  Rather, most couples choose to schedule their surgeries to allow for each person to care for the other.  Taking turns as a caregiver increases empathy and greatly increases the bond between spouses.

Plus, once they’re all recovered, they can take turn saying, “You look great.”  “No, YOU look great!”

Make Sure You Get What You Want, and NOT What Your Partner Wants

I’ve said it many times before, and it’s sort of an obvious cliché, but I’ll say it again.  You should have plastic surgery for you, and NOT for others.  Often, when a couple is comes in together, there is a lot of non-verbal communication that I’m unaware of, or I don’t fully see or understand.  Make sure that if you’re both getting plastic surgery, it’s for you, and NOT your partner.

I can make you feel better about those little areas of your body that are bothering you, but I can’t give you happiness or self-esteem if you don’t have any already.

Support Each Other

Nothing supports my decision to not become a psychiatrist more than seeing couples fight in front of me.  Fortunately, it’s been very rare.  Most couples are extremely supportive of each other, and listen carefully when it comes to every detail about surgery from the surgical procedure, risks and complications, benefits, recovery, and other instructions.

If both members of the couple are having surgery, then it important to be more organized than usual to ensure that proper care and supplies are at the house for recovery.  This may mean extra ice to reduce swelling, more pillows, more towels, all prescription medications filled, and extra movies around to watch after surgery.

Plastic surgery as a couple is not that common – yet.  However, it is a trend that seems to be on the rise.   As more couples exercise together, travel together, shop together, diet together and send their kiddos off to college together, it’s wonderful to see some partners putting the brakes on the mutual deterioration and sharing their next chapter together looking and feeling great.


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